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A Shy Person’s Guide to Public Speaking

I have always been what you would call “shy.” I feel nervous meeting new people (even online!) and a little awkward in most social situations. But I’ve always tried not to let that stand in my way, especially when it comes to my writing. Whenever I’m offered an opportunity to talk with people about writing and books, I take it, even if it makes me nervous. Over the years, starting back with the mandatory presentations in high school and university, I’ve found ways not to work around the shyness so it’s not so problematic.

Since shyness seems to be a pretty common trait among authors, and among readers too, it occurred to me that some of my blog readers might find it helpful if I shared what works for me. :)

Know what you’re talking about.

The more confident I am in my understanding of a topic, the easier it is for me to talk about it. I know I’m not very likely to say something totally off about, say, how I got published, given that I know that subject inside and out. If I’m going to be talking about something I don’t feel I understand thoroughly, I do some research ahead of time until I do. And I try to stick to topics I already know quite well, when I have a choice. (Thankfully, there hasn’t been much call for me to speak on nuclear physics or gourmet cooking.)

Rehearse, but don’t memorize.

If I’m doing a talk, I practice giving it to an imaginary audience (in some cases, my cats) beforehand. Once I’ve gone through the points I’m going to cover a few times, the material starts to feel familiar, and less daunting. I catch any phrases or ideas that I tend to stumble over, and find ways to rework them. I notice sections that seem ramble-y or disconnected and take them out or fix them. So when it’s time for me to talk to actual people, I can go in comfortable with everything I’m going to say. And I’m able to actually look at the audience while I’m presenting, because I have the main points memorized.

That said, I don’t believe in memorizing an entire speech. I find that trying to remember the exact wording of every sentence in which order puts me under more pressure, not less. I also think that allowing for some variation and spontaneity allows the talk to sound fresh even though I may have practiced it five times before. I’ll have an outline ready so I don’t have to worry about forgetting where to go next, and for specific names or quotes I need to remember exactly, but because I make sure I know the general topic well (see tip one), and because I’ve practiced phrasing the most important parts, I can often get through a 10-20 minute talk only glancing at that outline a few times.

Bring props.

When I visit with a school or library group, I almost always have a PowerPoint slideshow to supplement the presentation, with slides for each of the key topics including a few important points and a picture illustrating what I’m talking about. If I’m doing a talk that doesn’t allow for PowerPoint, I make sure to bring more concrete props: books, samples of my writing process materials (outline index cards, notebooks, red-inked manuscript pages), that sort of thing.

Props are helpful in a few ways. In general, they make your presentation more interesting by giving your audience visuals as well as words. But they have an extra benefit for the shy person: they give you something to direct people’s attention to other than you. I’m most nervous when I know that the audience is focused solely on me. Being able to point them to a photograph, or hold up a book so they can check out the cover, means that I’m not carrying the full weight of their attention anymore. They have other things to look at too! Having props on hand can also be reassuring — you know they’ll remind you of the things you wanted to talk about if you have a brain freeze, and they give you something to do with your hands other than fidget (if you’re inclined to do so otherwise).

Take your time.

When we’re nervous, our tendency is to talk quickly — to try and get it over with, I think! But barreling through a presentation not only makes it less pleasant to listen to, it also tends to make you feel more anxious, because you’re keyed up. So I try to remember, both when I’m practicing and when I’m doing the actual talk, to speak at a calm even pace and to allow pauses for emphasis (and to breathe!). Talking calmly helps keep me calm. And it generally pays off in a better response from the audience, which is also confidence-building. :)

Related to this, one of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard relating to public speaking is to always pause when you feel the urge to say “um” or “ah.” Little verbal tics like that can make it sound like you don’t know what you’re talking about. But if you pause silently while you reach for that word that’s on the tip of your tongue (and, again, breathe!), it just sounds as if you’re being thoughtful in your speech. And then you don’t start having embarrassed thoughts like ack, how many times have I said “um” in the last minute? which can throw you off.

Accept your limitations.

By doing all of the above, I think I usually come off as a competent public speaker. But the nervousness is still there, even if muted, and sometimes I still stumble. I also find improvised talks — like answering questions, or being part of a panel discussion — incredibly difficult. I’m a writer, I’m used to being able to revise my thoughts a dozen times before anyone’s exposed to them, I don’t string words together all that well in the moment. I sometimes realize after I’ve spoken (or while I’m speaking) that I’ve rambled on too long or pronounced someone’s name wrong or not entirely made sense.

There are two ways you can respond when you realize something like that. You can dwell on it, berate yourself for looking foolish, and make yourself even more tongue-tied. Or you can remind yourself that it’s no big deal. No one’s perfect, and most of the time the people listening won’t even have noticed what seems so horribly off to you.

I go into any unscripted speaking situation knowing that I’ll probably trip over my tongue at least once or twice. I know I can do that and still say useful, interesting things as well. I know that I’m doing my best, and my best isn’t perfect, and that’s okay. Which takes some of the pressure off, and means I probably fumble less than if I went in trying to be a perfect speaker.

Those are my tips — how about you?

I’d love to hear how my shy blog readers deal with their scary speaking situations!

Originally published at Megan Crewe - another world, not quite ours. You can comment here or there.


( 7 comments — Leave a comment )
Dec. 8th, 2011 01:51 am (UTC)
Thanks, Megan. This was well-written and informative.

I definitely agree on using props - they do help as visual cues for both yourself and your audience. I've also found it better not to rehearse every single word - sometimes you might a better phrase that sounds more fresh if you allow yourself the possibility of it. But it is helpful to have an outline to keep you on track. I'm mixed about powerpoint - sometimes I think having it there makes people look at the screen instead of you. But it is one of those things that's great to fall back on if you forget what you're saying in the moment. :)
Dec. 8th, 2011 07:17 pm (UTC)
See, I like having people look at the screen instead of me! Heh. :)
Dec. 8th, 2011 04:13 am (UTC)
Great tips. I'm not super shy about public speaking but I still follow a lot of these. I think another thing that helps is to watch other people speak and pay attention to when they flub or seem nervous. Some writers are amazing speakers, but a lot aren't and yet they can still be enjoyable to listen to despite their mistakes. It reminds me that mistakes are not a big deal to the audience, especially if you can laugh them off or just go on like nothing much happened.
Dec. 8th, 2011 07:18 pm (UTC)
Great point! I do try and notice things like that, and remind myself that it's no different when I'm the one speaking. Just sometimes hard to remember in the moment!
Dec. 8th, 2011 07:47 pm (UTC)
Ooh, yeah, I'm not sure I think of it in the moment either. But subconsciously, I hope, if I've been kind of considering it beforehand...
Dec. 8th, 2011 06:11 am (UTC)
"I’m a writer, I’m used to being able to revise my thoughts a dozen times before anyone’s exposed to them, I don’t string words together all that well in the moment."

THIS IS SO ME. Sometimes I feel like I use up all my brain power on the written word and I have nothing left for the spoken word. :D Just thinking about public speaking makes me want to crawl in a dark room under the covers. I like being social, but being the center of attention, on stage, is not my thing.
Dec. 8th, 2011 07:19 pm (UTC)
Good to know it's not just me! :)
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